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BreeIzzyMama 10/13/2008 at 11:40 AM
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I need help for a child that will FREAK out whenever another child around her is
making load noises, espically high pitched crying...
For probably about 4-5 months now my 2.4 year old gets quite upset when another
child around her is crying or loud and then everytime she see's them,
she shuts down and acts very sad and depressed and the only thing to
snap her out of it is when they or we leave... It has got to be the
most annoying and frustrating thing she does. I just have no idea how
to handle it...I have treated it like maybe she is worried about them
and told her they are ok, I have tried distracting her, her hearing
is fine and she does not have an ear infection (she had ear tubes in
1 ear but I dont think it is her ears being sensative to load
noises)...the only thing that calms her down is brining her to
another room. I really dont think she is worried about them, so not
so much sympothy crying...she really looks scared out of her mind!
Its like she goes into a screaming daze (only way I can think to
explain it) and I cant get her out of it until the other child has
stopped crying or screaming or she is removed from the room of the
other child. Its like she takes the screaming or crying of the other
child personally and thinks its directed to her so shes upset? I
dunno, but its been going on for a while now and I have NO idea what
to do about it. SO for others that have 2 yr olds and have a younger
baby or have other kids at your house on a regular basis...this ever
been a problem for you?


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angela@danielhunsicker.com 01/02/2009 at 3:45 PM
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