Message Boards
back to city / topic boards

Board: Orange County

Sort Posts:

Topic: Need advice... Please share your experience

 

Add as a friend
Send message
potatomc 08/12/2008 at 1:29 AM
Quote

Hi, 

I am a first time mother of a 5 months old baby.  My husband & I are already thinking ahead of when to have our 2nd child (since I'm 34 already).  We are just "thinking-out-loud" of maybe start trying when my baby boy turns 6 months old, so by the time the 2nd baby arrives, he'll be 1.5 yrs old.  We would love to hear your advice/experience on:

  1. What would be the Pros & Cons of the above scenerio?
  2. Your advice/suggestion of the ideal age gap between the 1st & 2nd kids (under my circumstances, i.e. age)?

Your precious advice/experience will be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance!

Sincerely,
Cook


Reply
    Flag
 

Add as a friend
Send message
Anonymous 08/25/2008 at 6:20 PM
Quote

This is just my opinion....and that of my friends as well. We had our second son when our first was 2yrs old and 4 months...so almost 2and 1/2....  All our friends urged us to wait till Matthew our first was 2 ans 1/2 because and 2 and 1/2 they just seem to be not so baby anymore.  I have a friend who had her second when her first was 20 months old and she said it was like having 2 babies.  I currently have a 20 month old....and I could not even imagine having a baby right now.  i think it's too close.  Puls your body isn;t ready to go through all that again.  5 month olds are easy...fun age...but it does get harder...just wait.

Suzie

www.zeebabee.com


Flag

Add as a friend
Send message
mssavvymom 09/18/2008 at 4:23 AM
Quote

Hi,

I'm on the same boat. I have a 5 month old boy and will be 36 in Oct. My husband and had our first after 13 years of marriage. We are savoring every minute of it and don't want to miss a thing because I think we waited long enough and we owe it to our little guy. We'd like to have another and for us I think 3 years is a good age because there's not so much of a gap. They can still have the same friends when they get older and its easier to explain to a 3 year old that a new baby is coming and that he needs to be mommies little helper. I'm the middle child. I have an older brother 4 years whom I never really connected with and a younger brother that is a 1 1/2 years younger. We're close now but I don't remember my mom being pregnant with him or him even being born. The earliest memory I have of him was when he was about 4.  So I think if we have another baby I want it to be something we all can participate in as a family and understand that welcoming a new baby is a group effort including the first child so they feel needed instead of kicked to the curb.  Hope this helps!

Lisa

 


Flag

 

Page 1 of 1 (3 items)
 
Advertisement