Behavior Swearing six year old! HELP!!!!!! Okay Everyone, this is totally embarrassing....but I need help! My son is six and a half. He has been diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome & ADD. At first glance, he appears to be a normal, active, healthy & funny little boy. The Aspergers is only really noticeable IF you can pin him down long enough for a conversation, LOL! Anyway, I am mentioning his developmental challenges because I am not sure how, if or to what degree these issues affect his abilities to understand what is acceptable, etc.......! Okay, so with that being said, my sweetfaced little angel has discovered "The B Word". He has said it on at least two different occassions at home while playing with his older sister. I first heard it this past sunday. I am proud to say that I was able to have a conversation with him about the fact that that was not a word that "we" say and that if he ever said it again he would be punished. I also asked him where he heard the word....who said it to him, etc. He said that he heard the word on a Barney video on YouTube (PARENTS BEWARE!!!!!) ! Yesterday he said the word again, and then lied about it & blamed his sister. I am feeling very much like I have no control. I am very much concerned about this occuring at school, summer camp, church, etc. Got any advice or insights? Wishing You Well, Michelle , lilaguide.com - Stores, Restaurants, Services, Products, Activities, Events

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Add as a friend Send message	MicaB7	06/19/2008 at 11:28 AM
	Okay Everyone, this is totally embarrassing....but I need help! My son is six and a half. He has been diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome & ADD. At first glance, he appears to be a normal, active, healthy & funny little boy. The Aspergers is only really noticeable IF you can pin him down long enough for a conversation, LOL! Anyway, I am mentioning his developmental challenges because I am not sure how, if or to what degree these issues affect his abilities to understand what is acceptable, etc.......! Okay, so with that being said, my sweetfaced little angel has discovered "The B Word". He has said it on at least two different occassions at home while playing with his older sister. I first heard it this past sunday. I am proud to say that I was able to have a conversation with him about the fact that that was not a word that "we" say and that if he ever said it again he would be punished. I also asked him where he heard the word....who said it to him, etc. He said that he heard the word on a Barney video on YouTube (PARENTS BEWARE!!!!!) ! Yesterday he said the word again, and then lied about it & blamed his sister. I am feeling very much like I have no control. I am very much concerned about this occuring at school, summer camp, church, etc. Got any advice or insights? Wishing You Well, Michelle Flag

Add as a friend Send message	momdoc	06/19/2008 at 4:01 PM
	Hi Michelle, Any chance he would respond to Time-outs. I think, when done properly and consistently, they can be super effective. Flag

Add as a friend Send message	Daddy Ian	06/20/2008 at 1:44 AM
	I would suggest not freaking out when you hear him say swear words, because he may just like getting a rise out of you. He may be saying these things to see how much he can get away with. If you just calmy tell him he can't say these words if he wants to have dessert after dinner, or if he wants to watch his favorite show...etc. If you hear him say it again take something away. (follow through with what you tell him, otherwise he is going to think HE has the power, and continue to swear, because he won't be afraid of something happening). Just keep in mind that having a strong reaction to his swear words may be what he is looking for by saying them, so just remain calm and in control, and make sure he understands what will happen if he continues to use this language. hope this helps. Flag

Add as a friend Send message	MicaB7	06/20/2008 at 7:53 AM
	Many Thanks to MomDoc & Daddy Ian, My son does respond well to timeouts, and that was definitely a consequence he experienced after both incidents. You are right, MomDoc, they are very useful when used properly! Daddy Ian, your suggestions to are right on point as well! While I certainly hope this does not occur again, I do feel more prepared to deal with it if it does! I hope everyone has a good weekend! Michelle Flag

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Okay Everyone, this is totally embarrassing....but I need help! My son is six and a half. He has been diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome & ADD. At first glance, he appears to be a normal, active, healthy & funny little boy. The Aspergers is only really noticeable IF you can pin him down long enough for a conversation, LOL! Anyway, I am mentioning his developmental challenges because I am not sure how, if or to what degree these issues affect his abilities to understand what is acceptable, etc.......! Okay, so with that being said, my sweetfaced little angel has discovered "The B Word". He has said it on at least two different occassions at home while playing with his older sister. I first heard it this past sunday. I am proud to say that I was able to have a conversation with him about the fact that that was not a word that "we" say and that if he ever said it again he would be punished. I also asked him where he heard the word....who said it to him, etc. He said that he heard the word on a Barney video on YouTube (PARENTS BEWARE!!!!!) ! Yesterday he said the word again, and then lied about it & blamed his sister. I am feeling very much like I have no control. I am very much concerned about this occuring at school, summer camp, church, etc. Got any advice or insights? Wishing You Well, Michelle Swearing six year old! HELP!!!!!! Behavior- Stores, Restaurants, Services, Products, Activities, Events