Philadelphia Advice concerning my 2 /12 year old Hello ladies, My daughter Lindsey has been involved in playgroups since she was 6 weeks old so she is no stranger to other children. Recently, she has been having a problem playing nicely with her friends in the playgroup. Specifically, she bullies the other children to give her the toy(s) they are playing with. If a girl is playing with a toy, she walks over to the girl screaming, "I want it". If the child does not give it up, she pushes, hits, etc. until the child gives her the toy. She has gotten progressively worse in the last few weeks. Last week, she was playing with two little girls for only 5 minutes until both little girls came and told their mothers that Lindsey was not sharing. As a result, they would not play with her. Today, while Lindsey was in a child care room of a church, she had to go to time-out twice because she became physical with the other children after not sharing and bullying kids for their toys. I don't want to be the mom whom no one invites over for playdates because my child is a bully. What should I do? Allister, lilaguide.com - Stores, Restaurants, Services, Products, Activities, Events

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Add as a friend Send message	allisterhaye	06/03/2008 at 5:48 PM
	Hello ladies, My daughter Lindsey has been involved in playgroups since she was 6 weeks old so she is no stranger to other children. Recently, she has been having a problem playing nicely with her friends in the playgroup. Specifically, she bullies the other children to give her the toy(s) they are playing with. If a girl is playing with a toy, she walks over to the girl screaming, "I want it". If the child does not give it up, she pushes, hits, etc. until the child gives her the toy. She has gotten progressively worse in the last few weeks. Last week, she was playing with two little girls for only 5 minutes until both little girls came and told their mothers that Lindsey was not sharing. As a result, they would not play with her. Today, while Lindsey was in a child care room of a church, she had to go to time-out twice because she became physical with the other children after not sharing and bullying kids for their toys. I don't want to be the mom whom no one invites over for playdates because my child is a bully. What should I do? Allister Flag

Add as a friend Send message	ljamison	06/10/2008 at 7:28 PM
	Hello! Can you let the other moms know that this is something that you are working on with your daughter and ask if they wouldn't mind letting her play with their kids? It might be helpful also if you let them know what your plan is for dealing with the situation (like putting her in time-out when she's inappropriate) or even ask them for their help in correcting her. That way they don't feel like you're "that mom" who doesn't reign her kids in and might be a little more sympathetic. I think time-out is a natural consequence for her behavior but I also think she has to be exposed to situations where the behavior occurs in order for her to really get it. I hope you have some supportive moms in your playgroup! Flag

Add as a friend Send message	Manhattan Mom	06/23/2008 at 4:17 PM
	You are not alone. We all go through this. And if we don't, than our child is probably too timid. :) Time-outs work when done well. This might sound funny but watch how the supernanny does them. Very consistent and very effective. Make sure the child explains why they were in a time-out after it is over. Also, don't be afraid to discuss this with your pediatrician. A good pediatrician deals with all aspects of your child's health and well-being. Physical and mental. Flag

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Hello ladies, My daughter Lindsey has been involved in playgroups since she was 6 weeks old so she is no stranger to other children. Recently, she has been having a problem playing nicely with her friends in the playgroup. Specifically, she bullies the other children to give her the toy(s) they are playing with. If a girl is playing with a toy, she walks over to the girl screaming, "I want it". If the child does not give it up, she pushes, hits, etc. until the child gives her the toy. She has gotten progressively worse in the last few weeks. Last week, she was playing with two little girls for only 5 minutes until both little girls came and told their mothers that Lindsey was not sharing. As a result, they would not play with her. Today, while Lindsey was in a child care room of a church, she had to go to time-out twice because she became physical with the other children after not sharing and bullying kids for their toys. I don't want to be the mom whom no one invites over for playdates because my child is a bully. What should I do? Allister Advice concerning my 2 /12 year old Philadelphia- Stores, Restaurants, Services, Products, Activities, Events