Well, my hubby is a chef, so he spends Mother's Day cooking for everyone else, except for me! The same holds true for Valentines Day (that holiday is so bad we don't even mention it in the house). He does come through with flowers and a card, but that's about it. He'll be gone from the house at 4:30 AM on Mother's Day, to be prepared for the buffet brunch that he'll have to run. I'll be lucky if I see him at all on that day.

Wow!  thats pretty bad!  I think I'm going to have to plan my own special events for the day.  So be it!

NO- They just don't get it. My husband asked me at 11:00 on Mothers Day what I would like? I told him, you know the stepping stone I had the kids make you or the tool organizer we made for you a couple of years ago....things like that, from the heart, from the kids......He still didn't get it, so I got flowers! Not that I am complaining about the flowers, they are beautiful. But, shouldn't they think about these things before the day is here?

I'm glad I'm not the only one.  I got grocery store flowers too, and a card. Thankfully my son at least made something at school for me.

 Nope, he gets me things that I need, not what I want.  I would love to have him make dinner and do the dishes, change a poopy diaper would be a bonus!   He got me a wireless printer last year.  This year he did a least ask what I would want (something he wants too!) and so we went to get composition software for the piano/computer/stage piano.  He has yet to install it though.  I'm not holding my breath...  He tells me that I am not his mother so why should he have to buy something for me.  I usually get his mother HIS gift for her...

Usually, my dad springs for my mom, my sisters and I to go out to lunch though.   He says that he doesn't think if it as Mother's Day, more as "Celebrate My Women Day"!

My husband is very thoughtful, but he can get stumped on things to buy because we already have too much stuff.  He's really good at getting me flowers for special days, but lately we've just been really blunt with each other about things that we want.  So, I would recommend being really upfront.  "Honey, I want you to make me dinner/buy me a spa day/help the kids make me a birdhouse/etc."  I really think a lot of guys prefer that to having to guess, even if it can be less romantic than a nice surprise.  My mom once bought herself a pair of earrings and gave it to my dad to hide and give to  her for the holidays.  She got what she wanted and he didn't have to guess - everyone wins.